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To quote something that most of us already know, "Change is the only thing permanent."
There are things that change so often that when they do, they are very negligible.
On the other hand, there are those that painfully stab us right through our souls, like losing the one whom you thought would be yours forever.
People change. Feelings change. It doesn't mean that the love once shared wasn't true and real. It simply just means that sometimes when people grow, they grow apart.
Yes, forever exists. Most people mistake it as a pact to infinity, it is not. Forever exists only in the heart. It is when you remember and feel the presence of your partner wherever you may be and no matter how long you have been apart. Forever does not mean a couple must look beyond what is yet to unfold. Sometimes people look too much into the future that they fail to see the beauty of what is in the present. They look too far with their partner that they do not see the rocks that might trip them along the journey; rocks that can cripple them and prevent them from moving forward towards forever.
There is a big difference between together struggling for forever and forever struggling to be together even when all things prove that you shouldn't be. The first condition is better. You must fight for that relationship.
Fighting for the person you love is a proof of true love. But just because you love someone, doesn't mean you have to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Having a special someone is good but sometimes it is better not to be with that person when clearly fighting becomes an indispensable part of everyday. On the other hand, it is also better not to be together when the love you feel is overflowing but is not reciprocated. Too much of everything is destructive. What I am saying is not about reciprocity of affection. I just want to point out that when the love is not reciprocated, there is something wrong.
There is a fine line between loving someone too much and being too stupid. To love your partner means trusting that person.Temptation is everywhere. Real trust is believing that your partner will choose not to give in. Stupidity is when you believe that your partner will NEVER give in.What is more stupid is when you continue walking and choose to believe that your partner is not doing anything bad when all signs already point to a cliff.
Never lose yourself, never lose your friends. Loving someone means sharing what you have without expecting something in return; agape. Putting that person in the center of your life is not how it should be; always remember the other important things in your life before your partner came. If you are willing to lose everything else for love, then that is not purely love. At the end of the day, when you break up, your friends will be the ones who will be with you.
Keeping your relationship intact in not like holding a rose because the more you hold on it and the stronger your grip is, the more painful the thorns impale your palm. The faster it will wilt. Let it grow on your soil. Take care of it as it is and never cut it for your own.
Pain is good. Pain is like a fertilizer that helps you to grow stronger when you have lost your special someone. Let your soul be purged of pain. Pain is what makes us feel alive, it is what makes us appreciate the small wonderful things that we often ignore or fail to appreciate. At the same time, never linger on it too much because just like how a fertilizer affects a bud, too much of it can kill you.
Crying is good. By being able to admit that you are in pain, you are one step closer to a stronger you. Drown the agony with tears. This is what I did when my partner left me 6 days before Christmas. 6 days before my birthday. I walked home alone from Metrowalk, Ortigas, until Gilmore, Quezon City. It was 1 in the morning and it was very dark. I embraced pain. I embraced darkness. I cried. No matter how painful things can get, never stay stationary in darkness. I was in it, but I kept walking forward.
No matter how long the night is, the dawn will break. Just like what I said earlier, change is constant. So is hurt. When the dawn breaks and the sun starts to shine, face it. This is the best moment to dry a tear-soaked hanky. Look at how beautiful the sky is and face the sunny side of life. You are injured, but you are alive.
Never grudge. Nothing can ever sprout from hatred; it will only bear more hatred and despair. Love your ex the way you loved him/her when you were together. Break-ups happen but when the love is true, the warmth of it will never leave your heart.
Older people told me things similar to what I have posted. I chose not to listen because I thought what I was feeling towards that person was different. This may sound so shitty but yes, this is true. Trust me, I have experienced it myself.